The worst possible pain

29 Jan

Is perhaps that of a parent to lose their young child. As a father of 2, I shudder to imagine how that night even feel.

While so many amongst us have gone through this feeling.

And while shattered, destroyed and devastated – they turned the tragedy into a reason for change.

My family experienced this 7 years back. A young lad killed in a road accident. Leaving behind doting parents and a sister.

To “celebrate” his first birthday after he was gone – the parents held a blood donation camp.

I recall going there – feeling awkward about what to possibly say on such an occasion.

But instead say smiles on their faces. Their son will never come back, but hundreds might come back because of their deeds.

To this day, the tradition continues. And I have done by bit to donate every quarter – with the 3rd quarter of the year reserved for Yousman.

While the void will never ever fill, their pain has given way to change.

I wish all our pains also give way to change.

2 Responses to The worst possible pain


Shweta Tyagi

January 29th, 2019 at 10:57 am

Hi Ankur,

This is such a touching post. I lost my only cousin brother two years back in a road accident. I have come to terms with it but every time I think of him, my heart aches. And I think of him everyday. We never realise a person’s value when he is with us.
His real sister is still suffering from depression. I took a pic of your article and shared it with her on Watsapp. I am hoping this story will give her the strength to make way for change. And may be this year, on my brother’s bday, instead of feeling sorry for him and ourselves, we will do something more fruitful.

Thanks so much for this article.



Prasanna Mysore

February 5th, 2019 at 6:09 pm

One observation is all these great deeds, charity organizations, donations are mostly by people who experience a terrible loss. Loss that feels bigger than anything they have or anything that could bring back the lost ones. But still, this is good. Maybe an awakening for people to do something worthy before calamity knocks on the door.